Anger: Use it or Lose it?
Anger is the most unknown emotion.
Anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage,” according to Charles Spielberger, Ph.D., a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Everyone experiences anger in a different way, but most of the time, anger is released with aggression. This aggression can save us in a survival situation, but not in society. Just like with many things, a little of anger is good and a lot can be destructive.
Suppression is one way to manage your anger. Suppression might sound like a bad thing, but it’s a good temporary fix. Sometimes, I find myself holding in so much anger that I become angry with myself, which is exactly what not to do. When you suppress your anger, you need to stop thinking about what makes you angry and put your mind to something else. Meditation, reading, and games are all good distractions. Eventually, suppression can become very difficult and can lead to things like depression and passive-aggressive behavior.
Expression is key in managing your anger. No, I don’t want you to start punching things and saying Beacon said you could. No, expression can be done in a mindful way. Sometimes, it’s okay to be assertive and speak up for yourself. Expressing your needs is important in getting whatever is it off your chest. Expression keeps your mind from thinking about something too much. It can keep you mentally healthy and prevent depression. When you feel like you’re about uncontrollably express your anger, it is so important to try to stay calm.
Staying calm is important in all situations. When you feel like you’re about to break down, whether it be from anger or sadness, staying calm can help you and everyone around you. There are so many ways to stay calm, but again, meditation is so helpful. Meditation clears your mind of everything and gets your focus back to what is important: you.
Info source: http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx