If you’re currently lacking confidence in your ability to stop binge eating, you may start to wonder if you’ll ever be able to change your behavior.

You may think it’s never going to happen and you’ll be stuck in this cycle forever.

Sound familiar?

Perhaps you think this way because you haven’t stopped yet! It has yet to be proven that the binge eating cycle will end. And- to add insult to injury, it’s easy to focus on all the times you haven’t successfully stopped binge eating and all the times that you have “failed.”

In the game of building confidence, every win does matter, every little thing you do matters, and most importantly, YOU matter! It’s time to start to believe this, and I mean, truly believe it.

Confidence is something you build, and to be the architect of this beautiful confidence house you’re building, you need to take the actions before you feel confident. And here’s the deal…to build any strong Architectural Digest worthy house, you have to do the work. You may be terrified to do this work, which is completely understandable. However, to achieve what you haven’t had before you need to willingly commit to doing something different this time.

To work through this fear and get to the other side, it starts by taking a chance on yourself. Aren’t you worth it? The more courageous and committed you are to your goals, the more you’ll continue to see your true capabilities. And that is how confidence is built! 

So what is confidence, exactly?

Confidence isn’t something you either have or you don’t have. It is available to all; however, we have to be willing to build it. If you’re not feeling confident, you’re not in this space of creating the confidence right now. You need to believe that you can do the hard work and persevere onwards.

Begin with picking one action you want to try,  then commit to working on it. This can be scary. You don’t know what the outcome will be, and it’s going to be uncomfortable. You have to step into this unknown. Courage does not always feel good, which is why a lot of people give up before they see all the cash and prizes. Appreciate your tiny wins along the way. What do these look like?

You sitting with your urge to binge instead of giving away like you usually do.

You stop eating before you feel sick.

There’s a craving you don’t give into and you don’t give in one time.

You make a plan and follow it!

If you want to prove that you’re capable, you need to focus on these small wins instead of all the times you’ve failed.

Confidence begins to build as you continuously prove to yourself, even one time, that you’re capable and you’re continuing to build the infrastructure that is the house of confidence. If you can do it one time, you can do it again!

Dan Sullivan calls these the four Cs: You find your commitment, know that you’re going to do something and go all in; be courageous, you may be scared but do it anyways; prove you’re capable by finding any proof that shows you you’re capable (resisting that one craving; not coming home and binging one night); and use that capability to build your confidence.

You have to work for your confidence AND you’re worth it!

Shine Bright! 

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