Letter to Self
At Beacon, letter writing is a thing. We send a love letter out every Sunday offering up all sorts of strategies and good news — because, well, we adore you… we’re also HUGE fans of YOU writing all kinds of letters! Since many of us are hunkered down at home, this may be the perfect time to pull out your pen and paper…
It is pretty easy, and an excellent tool that builds on the skills we are using to maintain a healthy relationship with our food and our lives.
In DBT a skill set is Interpersonal Effectiveness that helps us attend to relationships — and we know that richer relationships with others start with a richer relationship with self. These skills are ENHANCED with that deeper relationship with self. So that’s why we want you to become your number one fan.
The idea of the day: Fanmail!
Simple. Bring out some pretty stationery and a lovely fine point pen – or whatever you have laying around the house. Post-it notes and postcards are okay too.
This is simply about writing a letter to yourself.
And hey, if you’re thinking this is NOT a simple exercise for you. We get it, and here’s a tip: surrender perfectionism — you are the only reader, be kind, and push through resistance by starting small.
Keep in mind how good it feels when any writing is done. As the great American writer and satirist, Dorothy Parker, was known to say, “I hate writing, I love having written.”
Here are some letter writing exercises that can bring you to a deeper connection to who you are, who you want to be, and what you want to let go of. Pick one!
1. The farewell letter. As you may know, a big thing in Molly Carmel’s, Breaking Up With Sugar book is this: Write a breakup letter to sugar and let all the feelings rip as you kick sugar to the curb. Signed, sealed, delivered. No reply necessary!
2. Love letter to self: Yup, we suggest a big swoon to self. Write about how you want to feel six months after your breakup. At our 8-week Core group this is one of the final exercises, and, we offer to mail it to you in six months. Or just write “I love you” over and over. Pretty wild huh?
3. The rant: The angry letter. Yeah, write that rant to Sugar or to that harsh inner critic. You can even create a ritual where you light a flame to the letter and symbolically release all that it represents. Burn up confusion, criticism or craving. Poof!
4. Gratitude letter: Write a thank you note to self. We hear about gratitude journals, and instead, this can be in the form of a short & sweet snail mail to self — and in three days, voila, a gift to self that lands in your mailbox at a moment when you need it most.
5. Letter to distant self: The simple act of penning a note to your future self 20 years from now, 10 years or 66 days from now can be powerful. What choices today could have far-reaching implications? Or far-reaching healing and joy?
5.5. Pen pal: Hey, as extra credit you can write to a friend. Remember pen pals? Snail-mail? Surprise them with an inspirational quote or love note. Think about that warm fuzzy feeling you get when opening up your mailbox and seeing something other than ads and bills.
Writing letters can be extremely therapeutic as they ignite insights and offer perspective as we build a healthy relationship with food and ourselves.
Your Team at Beacon.
P.S. We love you.