When we are stressed, overwhelmed, underwhelmed or just plain tired, our brain can shut down, and suddenly we are in a meltdown and wise mind had gone missing. 

Solution:  We grab our list. 

What list? 

The list of 4 at-a-glance skills created to have on hand Be-4 a triggering event.

Like when you are hungry and shopping (never a wise-mind thing to do), or when you are in a conflict with a roommate and you are about to scream at them, or when suddenly you are hungry at 12:30 and lunch just happened at 12:15. There are so many touchy or stressful or indecisive moments we might encounter that were not, shall we say, planned! 

A cheat sheet can help us manage our emotions — and it can lead us to the next right action. We want a sense of inner mastery, but sometimes a prompt helps us be proactive! — not reactive!

So when the brain shuts down under stress and it needs a brain boost to recalibrate and reorganize – go at it! Grab that mini crib note to ace the situation! Here is where the at-a-glance little list comes in. 

Simple:  Jot down 4 skills on a piece of paper to put in your pocket or in the notes section of your phone. 

Let’s call it a Be-4 list!

An example:

  1. STOP, breathe
  2. Take a walk
  3. Call/text a friend
  4. Put ice on your neck

Whatever is on your B-4 list will be a barrier between you and a harmful behavior.

How could something so simple work? It does.

Don’t knock it ’til ya try it!

Shine Bright!

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