“Marie Kondo-ing” Your Relationship With Food
When Marie Kondo sprung to the scene with her Netflix series, her viewers couldn’t help but to reflect upon their lives, and possessions, in a different way.
Marie Kondo’s popular show, Tidying Up With Marie Kondo, embraces a philosophy centered around one important question…Does this spark joy in your life?
Marie’s method has now become something of a verb: “Marie Kondo-ing” your life. And when you watch the show, it’s hard to not sit in awe as she effortlessly comes in and re-organizes a home, starting from an underwear drawer to, seemingly, a marriage.
The simple, yet impactful question of whether something sparks joy for you is useful to consider in all areas of our lives. Particularly when it comes to healing our relationship with food.
Marie’s method propositions you to imagine the kind of life you want to be living, and then to filter out your belongings in line with that vision.
So in the name of creating a healthier relationship with food, let’s see how this method can apply.
Start by yourself if your food is really offering you long-term joy and serving your future self? Will the one slice of cake actually be just “one” slice? Or will it trigger your sugar cravings until that one tiny piece leaves you with a clean slated pan and further away from your goals?
Now let’s apply Marie’s three distinct phases in your call towards a life with joy and see how they apply to binge eating and food addiction.
1. First, decide WHO it is you want to be. A person free from the trappings of a sugar and flour addiction? No longer a binge eater? Someone who feels free from obsessive food thoughts? Decide who it is you want to be in this more joyful effort towards living.
2. Then, start visualizing HOW that person would behave. Would they stop at three bodegas en route home in search for their favorite binge food? Or would they head home after a stressful day and take a hot bubble bath instead? Would they isolate and disconnect from the world or would they choose to spend a beautiful summer day at a park with friends?
Yes, this is a total visualization exercise. You are really imagining the joyful life you want, without your trigger foods playing the starring role!
3. Finally, start following through with ACTIONS. If you want to become the more joyful version of yourself, the next step after visualization requires movement in that direction. Action is how behaviors around food change and how habit formation takes place.
So when you take your next bite, why not consider asking yourself, “does this really spark joy?” Remember this question and recall who you are when you’re your most joyful self.